第三部分：Catch the Star That Holds Your Destiny抓住生命里的那颗星02（第2页）

　　12.你是否仍在脑海中念叨着无数的杂事呢？

　　13.放慢你的舞步，

　　14.不要匆匆忙忙。

　　15.人生苦短，

　　16.音乐不会永远奏下去。

　　17.当你匆忙赶到目的地时，

　　18.也就错过了旅途中一半的乐趣。

　　19.当你终日忧心忡忡并马不停蹄时，20.就像一份礼物还没被拆开……21.就已丢弃……

　　22.人生不是一场竞赛。

　　23.放慢你的脚步，

　　24.倾听沿途的音符，

　　25.在音乐还没结束以前。

　　26.如果你学会了如何谱写自己的人生，那么你一点也不比著书立说者甚至攻城略地者逊色。

　　whatmakesustrulyhappy?是什么让我们幸福？

　　1.inrecentyears，researchershaveattemptedtouseavarietyofstatisticsandsurveystoansweraquestionthat’upiedcountlessgenerationsofphilosophers:whatmakesustrulyhappy?

　　2.eststhathappinessmaybelinked，inpart，torelativewealth—howwe’redoingparedtothosearoundus—overalltheoldadagethatneydoesn’tbuyhappinessseemstoholdtrue.

　　3.“wearemateriallysomuchbetteroffthanwewere50yearsago，butwe’renotoneiotahappier，”sayschrispeterson，apsychologyprofessorattheuniversityofmichigan.

　　4.that’snosurprisetohappinessexpertdavidmyers，whoseeshappinessasrecloselycorrelatedwithpeopleratherthanthings.“wehumanshaveadeepneedtobelong—toconnectwithothersinclose，supportive，intimate，caringrelationships，”hesays.“peoplewhohavesuchcloserelationshipsarerelikelytoreportthemselves‘veryhappy’.”

　　5.we’vepiledalistofsevenfactorsthatinf露enceratesofhappinessanddepression.

　　manyofthesefactorsvaryfromcitytocityandregiontoregion.here’syourchancetoseehowyourcitypares.

　　heworkshardforhishappiness6.doesworkingmakeyouunhappyorhappy?theanswer:itdepends.toilingawayatajobyouhatemayeatawayatyourhappinessovertime.butoverall，beingunemployedisworseforyourstateofmindthanbeingemployed—atleast，thatis，ifyoureaguy.

　　7.thepewresearchcenterfoundthatthepercentageofmenwhosaidtheywere“veryhappy”

　　wassignificantlylowerforunemployedmen（16percent）thanforemployedmen（37percent）.unemploymenthadlittleimpactonwomen’shappiness.

　　8.thepewresearchersspeculatethatthisisbecauserewomenthanmenareunemployedbychoice，althoughthestudydidn’tattempttoteaseapartthatdifference.

　　9.chrispeterson，ahappinessresearcherattheuniversityofmichigan，suspectsthereareotherfactorsatplayaswell.“otherstudieshavefoundthatifamanloseshisjob，itcanhavebothshort-termandlong-termpsychologicaleffects，evenifhefindsanotherjobwithequalsalary，”hesays.“forwomenit’snotunemploymentthatleadstounhappiness，butdivorce.”

　　10.inaddition，petersonstressesthatneymatterslessthanyou’dthink.“theengagedcustodianisrelikelytobehappythantheindependentlywealthy，unengagedmillionaire，”

　　hesays.“wedidn’tevolvetoberetiredandsitonthecouch.”

　　timeforfamily，friends，andmunity11.inthegrowingfieldofhappinessresearch，ohingisoverwhelminglyclear.peoplewhoaresociallyengagedarerelikelytobehappy—andlesslikelytobedepressed—thanthosewhoaren’t.

　　12.infact，timemagazinepollfoundthatthefourstsignificantsourcesofhappiness—children（77percent），friendships（76percent），contributothelivesofothers（75percent），andspousepartner（73percent）—allinvolvedspendingmeaningfultimewithotherpeople.

　　13.theproblem:“we’resocaughtupwithextraordinaryworkburdens，wedon’thavetimetoenjoythepeopleweloveorcontributetothelivesofothers，”sayspost.