第五部分: Open theWindow of YourMind 打开你心灵的窗户（第2页）
12.两天后的中午时分，我顺着临终安养院病房过道向前走着。比尔站在那里，靠着墙，凝视着地面。护士长已经告诉我，康尼在上午11点故去了。
13.比尔看见我后，让我拥抱了他许久。他满脸泪水，浑身颤抖。最后，他向后靠在墙上，深深地吸了一口气。
14.“我有话非说不可，”他说道，“我得说，对她说出来，感觉真是好极了。”他停下来擤鼻子。”你说的话我想了很多，今天早上我对她说我多么爱她……我多么珍惜和她结为夫妻。你真该看看她的笑容！”
15.我走进康尼的房间，亲自去和她告别。我看见，床头桌上放着一张比尔给她的太太的情人节贺卡——就是那种充满柔情蜜意的贺卡，上面写着：”给我出色的妻子……我爱你。”
helpyouholdthehappiness为你开启幸福之门1.iamfascinatedbyacademicstudiesofhumanhappiness，becausetheybringscientificrigortoissuesweallgrapplewith.estamericansarenoresatisfiedthantheywerethreedecadesago，whenthestandardoflivingwasmuchlower.
2.soifwinningthelotterywon’tdothetrick，whatwill?herearesevenkeylessonsfromhappinessresearch.itisindeedpossibletoboostourhappiness--butitlltakerethanafatwallet.
whatmattersiswhatwefocuson3.thosewithhigherinesaren’tnecessarilyhappier.butwhenaskedhowsatisfiedtheyarewiththeirlives，highearnersarerelikelytosaythey’rehappy.
4.why?thequestionmakesthempondertheirpositioninsocietyandtheyrealizethey’repretty露cky.theimplication:ifyouhaveaheftyportfolioorheftypaycheck，youcanprobablybolsteryourhappinessbyregularlycontemplayourgoodfortune.
5.meanwhile，ifyouarelesswelloff，avoidsituationswhereyoufeeldeprived--andseekoutthosewhereparisonsareinyourfavor.ratherthanbuyingthecheapesthouseinawealthyneighborhood，settleforatownwherepeoplehavesimilarsalaries.whenyouthinkaboutyourworth，forgetyourwell-heeledsisterandfocusonyourcash-strappedbrother.
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6.studieshavefoundthatmarriedfolksarehappierthanthosewhoaresingle.
7.“marriageprovidestwosourcesofhappiness，”saysandrewoswald，aneconomicsprofessoratenglandswarwickuniversity.“oneissexandtheotherisfriendship.marriagehasoneofthelargestimpactsonhumanwell-being.”
8.similarly，spendingtimewithfriendscanboosthappiness.studiesindicatethatmuisoneoflife’sleastenjoyableactivities，lethanweliketoadmitandthateaisoneoflife’sgreatpleasures.
9.butallofthesethingscanbeenhancedbyaddingfriends.muwithotherswillmakethetriplessgrim，playingwiththekidswillberefuniftheresanotheradultalongandeawithothersisbetterthaneaalone.
weliketofeelsecure
10.midlifeisaperiodofrelativeunhappiness.thisdissatisfactionmaystemfromthelackofcontrolfeltbythoseintheir40s，leraisingchildrenandthedemandsofwork.
11.bycontrast，employeesinseniorpositions，retireesandthosewithgoodjobsecurityoftenreportbeinghappy.oneexplanation:theyhavegreatercontrolovertheirdailylives.
12.“there’saprofoundlinkbetweeninsecuritiesofallkindsandhumanwell-being，”prof.
oswaldnotes.“supervisorsarehappierthanthosewhoaresupervised.joblossisanenorusnegativeandjobsecurityisanenorusp露stomentalhealth.”
weenjoymakingprogress
13.estwepreferleisuretowork.butthatdoesn’tmeanworkisalwaysasourceofunhappiness.welikethefeelingofperformingajobpetentlyandbeingintheflowofwork.
14.“therearedefinitelybetterandworsejobs，”saysdavidschkade，amanagementprofessorattheuniversityofcaliforniaatsandiego.“ifyou’reintheflowreoften，thatsgoingtobeabetterjob.”
15.butprof.omplishmentwefeelafterward.“weknowprogressmakespeoplefeelgood，”hesays.“youshoulddesignalifewhereyouhavethatfeelingofprogress.”
16.workalsohasthebenefitofmakingleisureseemsweeter，prof.schkadeadds.thismaybethereasonseniorswhosetoutsolelytorelaxandhavefunareoftendisappointedbytheirretirement.
weadapttoimprovements
17.inpursuitofprogress，westriveforfastercars，fatterpaychecksandwinninglotterytickets.
18.yet，whenwegetwhatwehankerafter，wequicklybeedissatisfiedandsoonwe’re露saftersomethingelse.academicsrefertothisasthe“hedonictreadmill”or“hedonicadaptation.”
19.wemay，however，beabletoslowtheprocessofadaptation.ifwegooutandcelebrateourrecentprotion，wewillhangontothegoodfeelingsforalittlelonger.ifweboughtahouselastyear，wemayrecoversomeoftheinitialthrillbypausingtoadmireournewhome.
20.weshouldalsothinkabouthowwespendourney.itseemswegetrelashappinessfromexperiencesthangoods.
21.ifwebuyanewcar，itwilleventuallygofrombeingourprideandjoytobeingascruffysetofwheelswithanirritarattle.butifwespendourneyonmealswithfriendsorvacationswithfamily，wewillbeleftwithfondmeriesthatmaygrowevenfonderwithtime.
wealsoadapttosetbacks.